1 is easier than 3

With the very important caveat that you must have three in order to appreciate how much easier one is.

This weekend I took one kid to my mom’s for the weekend, while the other two spent time being spoiled mercilessly by Granny and Grandpa. As it happens, I took Miles with me. I plan to do this more often, and yes, next time Oliver or Linus will come, and then the time after that, whoever hasn’t been yet will come with me.

It was just so awesome. At the risk of sound unappreciative of my other two children, it was just so nice to be able to really focus on just Miles. I feel so often like I don’t know them well enough, as individuals. Is it because they’re identical? I don’t know, but I read so many triplet blogs where the mom or dad can easily reel off a list of differences between their triplets.

I mean, I know they’re different, but I have a hard time describing it, you know? It’s like when we had them evaluated for Early Intervention last year. They’d ask “is Miles pointing to objects?” and I’d confidently say “yes!” and then wonder to myself, “or was that Linus?” People will ask me “who’s the leader?” and “who talks the most” and things like that and I honestly have a hard time answering.

Hopefully these one-on-one weekends will help.

At least if someone asks me if Miles loves Teddy Grahams, I’ll be able to answer with confidence…
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My mom enjoyed the one-on-one time too. But don’t worry, Linus and Oliver will get their share of Grandee storytime too…
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[And can I just go on more about how fast it is to get one kid in and out of the car? And how nice it was to be driven around by my mom, who can fit one carseat into her car, but not three? And how it was great not to even have to bring a stroller with me? And how shopping was manageable? And bathtime? And mealtime? Okay, I’ll stop now.]

13 thoughts on “1 is easier than 3”

  4. Esther's avatar

    Esther

    Oh, one is so much easier than multiples! Even “just” twins…I wonder if the boys are so similar because they are indeed identical. With my two, I can easily pinpoint differences in their behavior and personalities. But they are fraternal. They pretty much do the same stuff and are on the same level developmentally and I know that they both know the same words, commands,etc- but different personlities most of the time. So you brought up a good question and I would say that it’s because they are identical…but I am no expert, either!!!

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  6. Heather's avatar

    Heather

    I love it when my mother takes Charlotte for the afternoon and I just have the twins. Heaven.

    Fantastic pics, Pam!

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  9. Helen's avatar

    Helen

    What a fun weekend!

    I totally agree with you that sometimes it can be hard to pinpoint differences. When Parents As Teachers was here and I was asked if the boys knew their colors I said “yes!” because I knew I’d been hearing it from someone. Come to find out the colors were usually coming from Tyler, not the other two and I just didn’t realize it until the parent educator was “testing” them individually. Our kids kinda blend together, don’t they?

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  10. freckletree.'s avatar

    freckletree.

    i wonder how many parents of singletons were offended by that comment.

    whenever i bring up my twins, friends of *one* child will say, “it’s that way with one too.

    my ass, it is.

    i ♥ one-on-one time. so important for everyone involved.

    i hope you get to do it again soon.

    and btw, your boys names might be my favorite THREE boy names EVER. lucky for you, we can’t steal your names– my husband and i plan to practice abstinence until i go through menopause (and then he won’t be able to– sucker!!).

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    1. Pam's avatar

      pyjammy

      ha ha! i’d love for a singleton parent to be offended by that. if they are, i’ll send the boys their way and see how they cope. 😛

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  11. Savvy's avatar

    Savvy

    Hello 🙂 You had left a comment on my blog a while ago about someone using a picture of your adorable triplets to represent herself as their mom. I was shocked since I’ve seen it happening to some of my fellow triplet moms friends and never understood why someone would do that. I was going to e-mail you but I couldn’t find your e-mail address on your blogspot profile or this blog so I hope it’s okay that I’m leaving a comment 🙂
    I would definitely love to stay in touch since you’re in NO and I’m in BR. You can also find me on Facebook if you’re on there under Savvy Carney.
    Love your baby boys, they are absolutely handsome!!

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